Facing Fears With Guacamole

My social anxiety can be pretty bad sometimes (something I’m actively working on). Some things more than others make me really uncomfortable. Like going out to eat by myself. This is something I would never do. I don’t know why the mere thought of it would cause my anxiety to rise. But it did.

And it kept me from enjoying tons of yummy meals. Sometimes you’re craving something in particular and you can’t find a friend or family member to go with you, ya know?

One day a few months ago, I decided to kick this fear in the ass. I said “no more!” Plus, I really wanted some freaking guacamole.


Guacamole (and sheer willpower) has the power to make people to incredible things. So I drove to the Mexican restaurant…alone. I took some deep breaths and I walked into that restaurant…alone. So far so good.

The hostess greeted me and asked how many, to which I sheepishly replied “just one”. I took some more deep breaths and kept my head held high. I felt a little more at ease once seated at my table. I ordered my guacamole and chips and played on my phone. After eating the delicious goodness, I proudly exited the restaurant.

I had done it! I had gone to a restaurant all alone. It really is the little things in life. The little steps towards facing your fears. No matter how big or small.

A month or so later, I went back to that restaurant and ordered an entire meal…alone. Yes, guacamole was involved again.

I was still a little nervous and anxious but I was a heck of a lot more comfortable this time around. I left again, feeling even more proud than I had the last time.

Then today, something really incredible happened. I went to this little taco restaurant near my house…alone.

Walked right in, ordered, sat down and started to eat…alone. (And yes, guacamole was involved yet again.)

I was halfway through my meal when it hit me “I’m eating alone!” I was out at a restaurant eating alone and it hadn’t even phased me! I didn’t even have to think twice about it. No anxiety, no deep breaths, no self encouragement talk. I wanted some food so I drove there and ate it.

Facing our fears can be scary. But this moment today made me realize that as long as we have the willpower to take that first step and stare our fear in the face, we can accomplish anything. We can conquer any fears, self doubt or anxieties that come our way. Of course, a little guacamole can always help.


Self Care Challenge

In our list of day to day priorities, taking care of ourselves is usually on the bottom. If it even makes the list at all. For some reason we tend to view taking care of ourselves, doing something nice for ourselves, as being selfish or not a necessity.

But it is a necessity. It is a priority. It is not a selfish act.

If we don’t take time to nurture ourselves, we will eventually burn out. And once you’re burnt out and stressed out, how on earth can you possibly (successfully) take care of any other priorities that may be on your list?

So I propose a challenge. Some homework of sorts. I challenge you to do at least one thing today that is just for you. Because you deserve it!

Then, for fun, feel free to snap a pic of your self care and post it on Instagram and tag me @CheriseWilliams.xo so I can cheer you on!


I also challenge you to make your self care a priority each and every day! Start with a couple times a week if you must, and work your way up. Acts of self care don’t have to be time consuming, elaborate or money costing. Make your act of self care fit your life. Your soul. Here are just a few suggestions:

  • Take a walk
  • Meditate
  • Eat a healthy snack
  • Take a bubble bath
  • Get a massage
  • Write a poem
  • Read a book
  • Take yourself to the movies
  • Buy yourself some flowers
  • Visit the animals at a local shelter
  • Go to the park
  • Paint your nails

The list of possible ways to care for yourself are endless. How will you take care of yourself today?


Love Your Lines

I follow a beautiful account on Instagram called, Love Your Lines. This account shares lovely black and white images of women and their “lines”. Whether it be stretch marks, scars, etc. It’s such an empowering and refreshing thing to see. So often in our society we are bombarded with the photoshopped images. The airbrushed to “perfection” women. It’s so easy to look at your own body and feel a little discouraged or even disgust. But this account reminds us that it’s not always smooth skin and airbrushed bodies. Women everywhere have lines. It reminds us that you are in fact beautiful, lines and all.

If you aren’t following this account yet, I urge you to check them out.

Many Blessings.
Cherise Williams